No one is coming to save you!

There was a time in my life when I experienced so much self-pity. I’d console myself each time I didn't get what I wanted; that was because of the unfortunate circumstances in my life.

It was either my parents didn't raise me together, I am from a financially struggling family, I went to substandard schools, I don't know anyone in the big places, I don't have anyone rooting for me, I started playing basketball late, I didn't have the best coaches, I wasn't their favorite student, etc.

I’d go on and on about all these stories I'd cooked in my head to keep myself protected from reality. I'd use them as an excuse for being average in life, for not being the very best version of myself.

A part of me expected the world to be nicer to me because I had no privilege as I thought.

Until one day.

I was going on all about it to my mentor when he asked me “...and so what Joanne?”

On that day, I realized that no one but myself could save me, no matter how sad my story was.

Fight for yourself, or you'll sink.

Life indeed is a series of unexpected things, everyone is going through something. Loss, pain, heartbreak, disappointment, bad health you name it.

And yes people love a good sad story, but no one really cares whether you make it out or not; well unless they are family or anything close, and you can't blame anyone for not caring. You know why, because no one owes you a thing.

We tend to think that success or a good stable life is a straight curve, one without challenges.

sadly, that's not true. We all want the good life but do not have the discipline to work towards what we want out of life.

It is so common today for people to play the victim card to get out of a bad situation. It is one of the most common forms of self-sabotage, and the main reason most people are living miserable lives today.

If you have experienced any of these then you're feeling pity for yourself and you need to STOP now;

• You are stuck in your comfort zone, you don't like to stretch and see how long you can hold on.

• You are afraid of confronting yourself about your shortcomings. “... that's how I was raised, that's what I'm used to…”

• You keep ranting about how much you hate the situation you're in but are not brave enough to take the first step out of it.

• You are stuck in the same bad place for way too long and now you think that's your story.

• You keep making excuses for things that you don’t do right and blame it on other people. It's either your teacher or your boss or your neighbors except you.

• You daydream so much about the things you want, the new phone, the new house, the new job but are not willing to do what it takes to get it.

I've been there, and maybe a part of me is still there but I'm working on it. I've had to get it together, to put on my big girl pants and pick myself up and stop playing the victim card.

And one thing I've come to terms with is that life doesn't get easier, we get tougher at handling whatever challenges come our way.

This I've made peace with, in this life or the next, no one is coming to save you.